Andrew and I have been married for almost 3 years now, which means I have a permanent roommate. I love him, and I love spending time with him! But sometimes, a girl needs her space. It’s been a year since Andrew quit his job as a mechanic and has (after 3 intense months of schooling) been working from home. I like that he’s here to kiss me when I get home from work, and we have lunch together on days when I’m home. But today, he’s going out of town for an overnight trip, and I’ve got the whole place to myself. And I couldn’t be more excited!
So many women feel guilty for wanting their alone time, but, whether you’re married, single, have kids, don’t have kids, or whatever, you shouldn’t feel guilty about spending some time doing what you want to do. Even those of us who aren’t necessarily introverts need occasional alone time to recharge, so here’s a few ideas for what to do with your Me Time.
- Sleep. It sounds simple, but so many of us don’t get the amount of sleep we should. And pretty much all of us wake up
every morningmost mornings wishing we could go back to sleep. So, go ahead and do it! Take a nap. Sleep in an extra hour or two, or even go to bed early, if that’s your thing. If you have kids, ask hubby if he’ll take them to the park one Saturday morning and don’t set an alarm. Just enjoy the relaxation of that sweet moment of no responsibilities.
- Watch what you want to watch. This is what I’m most excited to do any time hubby leaves me home alone for a little while. In our house, I’m the TV/movie buff. He watches whatever, but there are some shows that I like that he totally judges me for watching! I usually watch these on my phone with my headphones plugged in, so he doesn’t have to listen to them as he rolls his eyes at me. Or, maybe you’ve got little eyes and ears around that you have to be careful of. Either way, curl up on the couch with a bowl of popcorn or a cup of coffee and indulge in whatever your guilty pleasure is.
- Take a bath. I’m not talking a quick shower to get clean. I’m talking a bubble bath. Fill the tub with nice warm water, light some candles, turn on some music, and just soak. Don’t worry about shaving or washing behind your ears. Just relax and literally wash away the day’s worries.
- Go shopping. This is how I usually get my Me Time, since hubby works from home. Sometimes I go out for a particular item, sometimes I don’t. But, for me, it’s relaxing to wander around my favorite store (Hobby Lobby or Target, usually) without an actual agenda. I just look at the stuff I like. Sometimes I buy something, sometimes I don’t. This is a great way to spend your time if you’re home a lot and want to get out for a reason other than the usual errands.
- Go see a movie. I think everyone should go to the theater and see a movie by themselves at least once in their life. The first time I went and saw a movie alone, I was a little apprehensive. But, it was the middle of the day, and I got off work earlier than planned. I’d been wanting to see The Duchess, but no one wanted to see it with me. I sucked it up and said “Screw it, I’m going to see it.” Was it a fantastic movie? Not necessarily. But I’ll always remember the experience. I could sit exactly where I wanted to. I didn’t have to worry about enough seats for everyone. I didn’t have to wait for a friend to get out of the bathroom. And I had the snacks all to myself.
- Read a book. Do you have a book that you’ve been wanting to read? Read it! Ever since I’ve discovered that I can borrow books from the library on our new Kindle, I’m obsessed with this feature. And don’t necessarily just sit on your couch and read. Go to the beach or the park and enjoy some fresh air while you’re at it. Or go to your local coffee shop and treat yourself to your favorite latte while you read.
- Enjoy your hobby. So many of us have hobbies that always seem to get pushed to the back burner because of life. Take your Me Time to catch up on it. I haven’t been spending as much time handlettering as I’d like lately, and I plan on catching up on it some tomorrow before I pick Andrew up from the airport. Having the space to yourself allows the opportunity to draw your inspiration from wherever you like.
Remember, the chores and housework and errands will always be there. Sometimes, it’s okay to put them off for a few hours, or even a day or two, to take some time for yourself. So, hit the snooze button. Turn up the volume. Light a few candles. Go for a drive. Do you.
You’ll thank yourself.
How about you? How do you like to spend your Me Time? Let us know in the comments or tag us on Instagram: @238milesapart